Thanks so much for the commiseration and kind words, guys!
Next month we'll be camping, and I'm honestly not sure what the opportunities for alone time will be there. But yes, it's a monthly event, so there's always the month after next. I'm just taking things as they come right now, letting her/them set the pace while making my preferences clear in a non-pushy way.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.