I'm glad you are sorting things out.
I'm realizing just because I love these men, it doesn't mean I have to act on that love in a sexual nature, or as a relationship more than friendship. It's all a huge learning process, isn't it?
Yup. You don't choose to feel this way or that way. You feel what you feel when you feel it. It just burbles up.
What you CAN choose is how to respond. You can choose to REACT or choose to ACT WITH INTENT.
So no... just because you feel you are love doesn't mean you have to act on it.
I know not everyone in the world is poly, but that doesn't mean you have to date EVERY poly person that comes into view either just because they ARE poly. Just being poly doesn't guarantee it's a love match. And just because it might be a love match doesn't mean your polysaturation point is not already at max. *shrug*