I have no problem sleeping aline. I am an amazing sleeper. But i just need the together time. Especially as i cant just show affection freely during the day becos of kids etc
So let go on the sleep thing and work more toward this? If the kids/other people seeing is a prob -- is living elsewhere a solution? So he can come to your space and you guys get alone time without other eyes around? A house with a mother-in-law cottage in back? Neighboring apartments?