Well, I thought things were getting better, but last night my husband told me he broke one of our safer sex rules. Not once, but three times over the past couple of months.
I am so angry, sad and hurt. We cried and argued for hours last night. I think he feels that while he broke a rule, I also broke a rule albeit an unwritten one. Engaging in BDSM sex and coming home bruised.
At some point it felt like our hurts were competing or something.
We made new rules. Discussed what to do next (some things have to be done before we can have unprotected sex again, etc.). Now I feel I just have to sit this one out. I've never felt he betrayed me, ever before. How do I regain that trust?