Originally Posted by AnotherConfused
I am most definitely in a relationship with C, and he considers himself in a relationship with me, even though we keep it discreet and even though he expects to end it when he finds a girlfriend he can have a more complete relationship with. (He and I don't have full-on sex, and I can't live or travel with him because I'm married and busy raising children.) We love each other a whole bunch, there is romance, there is sexual intimacy within the boundaries I negotiated with my husband, there is daily communication (typically at least a couple of emails a day), and we miss each other when we are apart. It's been going on over a year, and it doesn't feel shallow in any way. If I didn't have a husband we would surely let everyone know we were in love.
This is where I am with my BF. Except he's the one who's married.
I think he used the word relationship after I'd been out of town and his wife teased him mercilessly that we must be in a relationship because it was so obvious he was missing me the whole time I was gone.