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Old 07-06-2012, 03:35 PM
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How do I *know* beyond a shadow of a doubt I'm poly?
Is there anything in your life that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt? If so, then you are lucky.

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How do I *know* I'm not just saying it because it's convenient (ie, I don't want to hurt someone?)
Have you felt poly when it has been inconvenient to be poly? Or do you feel poly only when it is convenient?

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How do I know I'm just not simply a slut?
You say that like it's a bad thing.

OK, trying not to be quite so flippant... I'll ask some more constructive questions...
Do you tend to fall in love with another only when your current relationship is not looking so good? Do you use the other relationships to "fill a gap" in your current one? Do you stay in love with people after you have broken up with them, even when that can sometimes cause issues? When you fall in love with a second person, do you feel that you love the current person more or less?

Some of these are ways that I have seen to work these things through.

Hope this helps.
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