Originally Posted by SeventhCrow
I'd say it's unwise to expect that just because you love two people deeply that they will love each other the same. Humans don't work that way.
I have to agree on this point.
Here is another thought that gives me pause; Why does your girlfriend want to be closer to your husband? What's the motivation? Is it for your sake? Is she doing it because SHE wants to be closer to him or because she wants to make a more secure hold on the relationship between you and her?
Is your husband simply not attracted to her? That is a legitimate possiblity.