What are his hobbies, outside interests ? How much time and energy are directed at those activities.
When my wife floated the idea of opening up our marriage my very first thought was ..."hows that going to work with the crazy schedules we both have. I don't have time to do the stuff I'm suppose to do now.....date are you kidding ???" Turns out she wasn't really thinking about my schedule just her own
.....unless of course it would have had some impacted her's.
So now with her effectively gone one would think I'd have time, energy, and desire to date...not really... things just shifted. It is what it is ...I'm not upset or frustrated about that ... not YET
One could argue it's all energy management or investment.....time is just the delivery system.