First of all, I am sorry to hear that things are on a roller coaster.
It will work out for the best I'm sure, whichever way it goes. You can't go through life unhappy. I am afraid this would be the way it would be if me and my others (boyfriend and wanted boyfriend) began a relationship. I would really like for it to be harmonious and jealous free, but I I think the consensus is that just doesn't always happen and you have to really work at it if you want it to be long term. My poly relationship is purely a discussion right now. Lots of ups and downs and insecurities at the moment, but alas, lots of listening and understanding and contemplating as well
What is a "vee"? lol