Originally Posted by GalaGirl
Is it a fear of your being vulnerable to the other lover? Like the other lover is close enough to hurt you to bruise (even if just in consenting rowdy fun sex)?
I don't think its about being vulnerable. I think its about being with someone for almost 20 years, thinking you know them inside and out, and then they do something unexpected that you really don't understand. I think that if anything, he sees me more as a dominant person, and the fact that I submitted myself to being tied up, blindfolded and smakcked so hard it left visible bruises, really upset him.