Originally Posted by Hudson
... Is this common in poly relationships?
I am curious because I am told that almost all poly couples share the intimate details of their secondary relationships with their primaries.
What is your experience?
Oh, hell, no! The details of discussions and the sex I have are nobody's business except for mine and the other person(s) involved. I won't get involved with anybody who has a partner who expects such, nor will I get/stay involved with anybody who would expect such.
I can say that no polyfolk with whom I'm acquainted expect such sharing.
The thought of it creeps me out.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.