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Old 07-04-2012, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted by amberleaf View Post
Sitting at home watching TV is not quality time.
Well, it can be quality, but it certainly is NOT romantic sexy time (unless you're fucking on the couch with the TV on as background).

. . . She'll say that because we live together, we get to see each other all the time.
Yeah, well, that's a crappy defense. Folding the laundry together doesn't count as sexy date time either (unless you get her up on top of the washing machine and...).

My point is any time spent together can be quality time if both people make an effort, but it sounds like she's not into making effort for anyone but herself. Poly goes haywire when someone is just thinking all me-me-me and not putting enough energy into making sure their relationships work for ALL their partners.
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