But, I do know that in our polydynamic-we have a rule that there is NO sharing of personal information without the permission of the person we're sharing ABOUT AND the person we're sharing too.
IE-I don't want technical details of the sexual intimacies between my husband and his girlfriend. Therefore, don't tell me.
I don't want him sharing personal details about OUR sexual intimacies with her. Therefore, don't tell her.
(and vice versa etc)
"Love As Thou Wilt"