Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
I don't think it sounds selfish. It sounds honest. It's important to distinguish between rules and boundaries. It's perfectly fine to tell a partner that you have the boundary that you can only be with someone if you're their most "important" relationship. That's different from telling your partner he's not allowed to love anyone more than he loves you. In other words, one of them accepts that if he can't live within your boundary, it will be your own responsibility to leave and take ownership. The other means that he's expected to sacrifice his happiness for your own.
Gosh, this paragraph has struck a chord with me. Though I am struggling to get the full meaning really clear in my mind.
Please could you paraphrase, rephrase, and/or give some more examples? I really want to grasp this !!!