Originally Posted by dingedheart
What about the old saying you can learn a lot about somebody by the people they choose to associate with.
Heh-heh, well, yes, that is something to go by when there are glaring differences BUT that idea won't always hold water because judgments are by nature subjective. I personally I would have a hard time introducing Lively to anyone in NYC and expecting them to hit it off. This is a very liberal city, politically, and he's very conservative (and always feeling like the odd man out in social circles because of it). Politics is a big part of how he looks at people, although we hit it off despite that. I don't use politics alone to judge someone, so I can date liberals or conservatives as long as they are good people. But if I started seeing someone who had radical leftist politics, Lively would probably hate the guy and start looking at me like I had very bad judgment. And a very liberal guy would probably look askance at me for dating someone who's so conservative.
I really don't think transparency and honesty in poly HAS TO include meeting and developing metamour relationships. It's nice when it happens, but not necessary.