Welcome to the forum. As you probably have already seen, your story isn't that uncommon when folks are coming to the realization of how they love.
I definitely would encourage a meeting of the three of you - even if it's just for coffee. It may be scary, but it turns everyone into real people, rather than abstract concepts.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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