I am glad that you posted about this.
For me (and I know others will differ in their opinions) having any sort of intimate contact with another opens up barriers and allows affection to grow. Some talk about swinging and how they thought it would just be NSA sex, but ended up falling in love with the person, others talk about BSDM and how it not about sex or relationships, but the intimacy that I have seen in BDSM relationships often causes the affects to grow.
Undoubtedly there are some for whom this doesn't apply.
I wish you luck on your continued journey, and hope that is is a happy one.
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