So, a little question about the sensibilities of poly...
I am curious as to how often it is sensible to get tested for STDs/STIs.
In the past, I have been monogamous and was tested before each new relationship.
Now I'm poly and my girlfriend is about to sleep with a new person.
He has recently been tested and showed her the certificates. However, he has about 3 other very casual partners at the minute and is looking for more, so he's got a lot of activity going on.
My primary girlfriend and I currently live long distance - I won't be seeing her for another 6 weeks. I told her that I would like her to be tested just before I arrive, to err on the safe side. She wasn't sure that it was necessary, since they will practice safe sex and he's currently clean.
How do you guys deal with it? Do you get tested routinely (i.e. every X number of months), regardless of the amount of partners you have? Do you only get tested when you have a new partner?
Thanks in advance for the advice!
(GalaGirl, if you're reading this... I know you'll have something to say!)