I realized after I logged off that I wanted to come back and add that I did not post the "why me" stuff just to fish for compliments or anything like that. It's just I am wondering how one establishes trust and gets to know someone when there is such vast distance in time and space between seeing the person.
I'm still married (separated) and he knows that, so marrying me to get a green card is not an option for a while, although it did occur to me. He did say that he sees his long hours as a necessity for the next few years, and he seems to love his work. And he stays in very nice hotels, dresses well, seems comfortably well-off.
It's almost too perfect.
I'm not normally suspicious, I guess that's why I am having a hard time with all these doubts. I'm just wrangling the LDR aspect.