Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
In other words, what was the process of "we're all interested in this" to "stuck in a relationship" - were you given any say in this? He had already had one sign that you were not happy with the idea of poly - once he found the couple, how much discussion was had about whether or not to start this, and to really become inside a poly relationship?
The process was a lot of talking, a few outings and I could see fairly quickly that there was some sort of connection between the wife and CH. Me, being fairly reserved, had a bit of a harder time getting to know the husband, but it seemed like we were getting along.
Then things seem to change after being intimate. He gave the 'it's not you, it's me' spiel and then started showing affection towards CH. The wife has been friendly, but that's it. So maybe being stuck isn't the right phrase. Maybe feeling more like the odd one out is a better term.