Welcome to the forum!
Sounds like you are making it work for you - that's great. It's always heartening to hear more stories about folks who are just doing it. Folks tend to post mostly when they have problems, and that can distort things to make it look like poly is nothing but problems.
So one question, if you don't mind - you wrote about "trying to honor" the Primary/Secondary - is there a reason why you try to do that? Some folks prefer it, others just throw it out the window as not necessary. It's certainly not mandatory.