My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years. Until about three years ago, we were mono. I am the one who asked to open the marriage. At first it was just so I could mess around, I guess. I had felt that I had missed out on some of the fun that I should have been having as a young adult. We got married when I was 19.
Well, my husband found an old classmate and they decided to start a relationship, and I found that I enjoyed her husband's company. Without realizing that what we were doing had a name (polyamory)...we forged a very strong and deep love with each other and now we consider ourselves in a marriage of four instead of just two. In a nutshell, I have two husbands that I love. Our lines are a bit blurry, but we do try to honor Primary and Secondary. We also live 7 hours apart from each other...so that helps, I think...
I'm still trying to figure this all out...but I'm also just going with the flow as our relationships continue to grow. I look forward to learning from others on here. I am so pleased to be able to have such an open and honest conversation with my husband about all of this, and I'm thrilled to know that we aren't the only ones who felt a need for more, and that it's ok and it has even made us a closer couple for it.