My GF has to go back to Finland at the end of this month
(Visia for studing at our local university runs out) and won't be able to return for atleast 2years (possibly longer). My husband wanted to have a deep conversation about what would happen if she retuens (she keeps telling us she will definitly retun to the U.S. and to us) about her putting the family first in regars to communication and money and she was really all for this. She even said this is what she wants. She said she wants a long turm caring devoted relationship (Yah!)! I have talked about putting all our wants and needs down on paper and signing it, just for our sake. What do others think of this idea? I think mainly this would make me feel better about her leaving for so long!! (She has promised to e-mail (even just a "hi, I love you") me daily and hand write letters weekly, I told her that is a lot and that she doesn't have to) Just wondering what others think since you all give such GREAT advice!!!