Originally Posted by mercury
So, do you think the "veto" was still wrong of her? On the one hand, she wasn't ripping apart people who were actively together.
I think that Veto's are wrong. Period.
If one can't trust their partner to make the right decisions for themselves, they simply shouldn't be in that type of relationship.
The concept of poly is about respecting your partner's nature to love more than one. Respect should also be extended to the other person they choose to love and enjoy. They don't necessarily have to like that other person, but they should respect and trust in their partner's choice and their partner's ability to effectively manage any issues that might arise in that other relationship, especially those detrimental to the primary relationship.
A Veto is hypocritical to trusting, open, respect-filled nature of Poly.