My husband and I are also in a quad relationship that all four of us started as swingers and then all kind of just fell into this exclusive relationship somewhat accidentally. Are we swingers still? Not really because none of us are looking for other swinging partners. Are we poly? I'm not sure about that either. I think we're all a little scared to use that word. I guess maybe we are somewhere in the middle. Its probably better for us to just go with it and not try to label it.
We just celebrated one year and so far, so good. We live some distance from each other but spend most weekends together and all talk every day. Most of the time I feel so incredibly happy and lucky...other times it is all a little overwhelming (not necessarily in a bad way) and confusing. I'm on this site looking for information and stories of how others have made quads work.