I mean small things that they could stop doing or change, and the person is otherwise seeming compatible. I know I shouldn't try and change them in most cases, but these are small enough? Say they want to give quick kisses in public and I don't like that.
In fact, that example lets me explain the problem further. In that example, I might pull away because I am not comfortable, or occasionally not feeling up to it. But then my partner can't help it and starts feeling like they can never initiate a kiss. Even if we talked about it and I said it was in public I didn't like, they might stop initating. I am troubled with patterns that get set and stay in the relationship.