Hi Devon, welcome to the forum. We have a special board for Dating and Friendships - not everyone visits the intro board, so you might want to make a more detailed post there. You may be more successful.
Is there any particular reason why the third person in your relationship has to be black?
Thank you for your service. I wish you luck.
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