This is all very interesting.
"Why sex only?"
But don't we all really know the answer to that.
I don't! Sex without emotional attachment is painful for me. Life without emotional attachment for that matter is painful for me. So, no it's not obvious to me. I never want sex just for the sake of it. I feel triggerred, hurt, sad and empty. I also don't see the point.
As my friends will attest, I've rarely been one to shy from the risk of love. Although I've been burned, I usually get right back up on the horse.
Originally Posted by redpepper
I was wondering as that might help you answer this question for yourself. Perhaps if you talk about it with them they will not only answer it for themselves but find some meaning in it all for themselves too.
I think I know what you mean, but I'm not sure I know what you mean.
For 'D', fucking around meets her sexual needs and lends itself to a more stable and rewarding primary relationship. I don't get it. For me, that kind of "swinging" has been the outlet for my unrecognized and unmet poly needs.
This is touching a lot of nerves for me all of a sudden. I'm not sure why...