Wanting to change little things about your partner, wondering if you fell into bed at the right time, wondering about feelings, worrying that kids will get too attached... this is all perfectly normal adult dating stuff. Just keep being honest and compassionate and take care of yourself, and I think you will be just fine.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.