Originally Posted by Mahogany
I have read so many posts filled with hurt, that I pray I am not kidding myself. If it is so wonderful, poly, why so much pain?
I'm not experienced but IMO many people decide to be poly, but that's a logical decision. Then something happens that triggers them emotionally. Particularly if they suffered any kind of mistreatment before they became an adult, which most people have. So they have more of a gut reaction, or overreaction. They imagine too many things until they get reassured. And it's pretty normal when we don't have experience, and if we grew up with mono teachings. But some people are lucky enough to not get triggered, or they know how to calm themselves. And some people even have less innate jealousy.