Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
Totally agree with you about the difference between veto and asking someone's opinion. I am very glad that you have that dialogue going for you. The fact that this has increased the closeness between you and your friend is also a great thing, for sure.
I just really feel that it could do more harm than good.
I have had friends who struggled to feel desirable, so I have had second-hand experience of what that is like. The problem is that the mind-games can be played when you are self-doubting. Even if you have sex with someone, your mind goes to "yeah, but that was just a sympathy fuck, he didn't really WANT to."
I tend to agree with you. I've expressed my concern about this to my husband and while he doesn't agree with my impression of things, he trusts my judgement.
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