Originally Posted by rolypoly
I am 'D's lover, as far as she's concerned. I don't feel unwanted, unloved or anything, but my feelings for her are stronger than hers for me. It bothers me to watch the two of them argue over unmet needs with each other. There are some wonderful things between them. Some of their needs are met together. Some other major ones aren't. I watch them and wonder why they couldn't accept the limitations of their relationship and love other people as well? Why only sex with others?
Because sometimes one just wants sex! The Zipless Fuck TM (Erica Jong).
My longest term lover, besides my SO, is a young guy, FWB (friend w benefits), mostly NSA (no strings attached). He's really cute, funny, respectful, smart, but doesnt have time to be someone's bf right now (he's going to school and working). We get along well, but aren't really in the same headspace or life situation to Love each other with a capital L. He's a good kid and a creative satisfying lover and that's good enough for me! We see each other abt once a month. I'd like more of him, but it is fun to anticipate our infrequent meetings all month!
I don't go in for fuckbuddies at all tho. Met and dumped a couple who wanted that this year.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)