Seems like a silly "rule" to me also. I talk to Lovely, Bear talks to Lovely, Bear and I check each other's OKC messages to see what the other 2/3s of the couple has been talking about. And, we all talk on the phone at the same time nearly every evening. There is LOTS of communicating going on in our triad!
Pinky, 41, f, bi. Married to Bear, 42, m, straight.
Not dating anyone right now.
I became insane with long intervals of horrible sanity.--EAP