Couldn't agree with you more that trying to make sense of the bible is a hopeless task.
I have a relationship with Jesus that is very personal shaped by my own experience.
I try to be very careful about making generalizations or suggestions that I have some special knowledge of divinity.
I have a unique understanding but nothing can contradict Christ's command that we love each other.
I love people who I wouldn't like to have sex with. I also love people who wouldn't choose to have sex with me.
I think it would be nice if the Christians who visit this web site could have an open discussion about love and sex without the confusion that comes from trying to understand writers of the bible who endorsed slavery, treating women as possesions and hating our enemies.
Jesus told us to love. My goal is to a very good job of loving. For me that's a chore worth working on.