Originally Posted by Quath
I think it is a good idea to try to get him to be open with his wife. It may cause some short term pain, but it will probably be better than if she found out some other way.
I hope it works out for you.
Also are you letting your potential lovers know your open/poly/married before any relationship is started?
I think thats something important to let someone know right when you meet (if theres an interest there) or on the first date (again also if its something you plan on pursuing). It just avoids one or the other being hurt later.
Im also wondering if maybe hes not interested now that he knows you are poly and capable of having an actual relationship aside from sex because maybe all he is looking for is an affair due to his wifes condition??