Originally Posted by SNeacail
This is not a good sign.
I agree, and that's one of my biggest reasons for concern. It's not even that I think she's being deliberately manipulative or something. It's more like, she's been manipulated for the last 3 years. She had to form a protective layer to cope, and forget about telling her abusive boyfriend how she felt. I suspect she's learned to tell HERSELF what SHE needs to hear, and now she needs to unlearn that behaviour.