Originally Posted by Phy
The second point coming to mind is this 'healer attitude'. Yes, there are nice men out there. Yes, shying away from all physical or intimate contact for life would be unhealthy. But this kind of sounds therapeutic and he isn't some kind of professional or something like that. So if the friend feels the need to overcome some fears, I would look elsewhere.
It's interesting that you caught that, because he actually has explicitly said that there's an element of therapy in this. He actually is a trained therapist (addictions counselling specifically, but it was a comprehensive program that dealt with all kinds of emotional issues), though he doesn't practice because he doesn't like dealing with other people's problems :P