Thank you both for your input - I appreciate your kind words and support. It's nice to have reassurance that I"m not going about this all wrong.
I've thought about what "primary" means to me, and I suppose what I'd like is for our relationship to have priority. Though, that does stem from the insecurity/fear that I'll be neglected. Something else to discuss.
It's hard to gauge what to expect - different people react differently to different things. I guess the best thing really is to take this as slowly as possible and see where it goes.
I don't think I have any other questions.. I'm really glad I've found this forum - Its an excellent resource.