Originally Posted by feelyunicorn
I find it conceited to assume that we are helping someone, when the recepient does not ask for help. I often see this co-dependent dynamic, whereby the 'saver' gets the moral high-ground, and the 'saved' gets the all the attention and mooching.
In fact, that pretty much describes the longest relationship I had. Ain`t telling which side I was on!
Do you think it is always conceited to try to save or only when it is based on an assumption of the need for saving?
I could understand this feeling about certain situations where it is assumed by one party that the other needs help, but not so much when the person admits they need help. An admission of a problem isn't the same as wanting to solve it, but I wouldn't find it conceited to try to "save" a person from something that is an acknowledged issue.