I find it conceited to assume that we are helping someone, when the recepient does not ask for help. I often see this co-dependent dynamic, whereby the 'saver' gets the moral high-ground, and the 'saved' gets the all the attention and mooching.
In fact, that pretty much describes the longest relationship I had. Ain`t telling which side I was on!
Independent, sex-positive, bi-curious, private, atheist, elitist, athletic dude.