yet another disasterous start (no offense intended feel free to read my story-I had my own big disasterous start).
I highly suggest:
stick with the counselor
work on YOURSELF
remind yourself daily-you can only change YOURSELF
let go of your "claim" on your wife (it's not real anyway)
work on figuring out what YOU need to be happy in life
once you know-decide IS that compatible w/what she needs
read the communication thread on the forum under "general"
"Love As Thou Wilt"