Wow, I haven't read in quite awhile and I am so sad for what you are going through. I don't know if anyone has mentioned this, but the TEXTING game can get out of control! It is the channel by which the other woman became a primary, where that was never supposed to happen. We had other problems that I was in denial over, but I just wanted to put in my 2 cents here. Hugs.
Formerly married to Sundance
Boyfriend -- Butch Cassidy