I've pared many messages from the thread that were parts of non-productive tangents. I much prefer to let a discussion run its course naturally, though I will act to keep a discussion on topic and functional if I think it's becoming toxic.
Please, consider your words carefully. Comments that aren't outright ad hominem can stil be insulting and inflammatory.
Also, consider your assumptions carefully. Assuming that somebody else is discussing in poor faith can derail a conversation in short order.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.