"good enough to be someone's primary"
A friend of mine (has an obvious physical difference) and I (geographically undesirable, live at home) find that we have trouble meeting single monogamous or polyamorous person to date us.
We have plenty of poly people (who are already in primary relationships) at any time who are interested. We find these people to be so much easier to get along with and they seem to be less judgmental.
Is there such a thing as not being "primary material" that is similar to not being "monogamous life partner" material?
We both have a complex about this.
I am previously monogamous starting to consider poly; I am thinking that perhaps if I dated two or more people as a secondary relationship, maybe that would fill the bill?
Last edited by Quietfever; 06-11-2012 at 02:33 AM.