Your situation isn't normal to you ....here actually pretty normal
Can someone so entrenched become poly....sure.....are there success stories sure. The poly/mono dynamic is IMO way harder and I think has a higher failure rate. Start reading all the different stories to get idea of what you face.
I'd put the wedding on indefinite hold until you both figure this out.
Have you thought about counseling?
Last edited by dingedheart; 06-10-2012 at 03:13 PM.