One suggestion, how well do you know your husband...
Would he be open to YOU playing matchmaker.....
In some places cultures it was not even uncommon for the wife to find/manage mistresses.
If you can honestly pick women he might like, but also aren't too crazy, perhaps this would be a situation that might work.
Heck there is a chance he might be LIKE the fact of you looking for him.
That being said I would also agree with those that point out there flags in our description of your husband and some self research and or professional advice may also be worthwhile.