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Old 06-05-2012, 01:12 AM
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It's not necessarily impossible to have something permanent at 21, but you and F have been together for four years. In that time, surely you both grew and changed. (If you were this with-it at 17, I am officially jealous! I was a total trainwreck!) Maybe it's time for you two to think about who you are now and the ways you differ from when you were 17? Figuring out you're potentially poly is a big change, and yeah, he's going to be uncomfortable, but if it's a change he can't handle, well, you are both young. There is still loads of time to find someone who is truly compatible.

So if you're poly and you don't see that changing, J doesn't actually matter. What matters is what you want for your own life.
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