Originally Posted by pandabear
I don't want to leave the marriage "for her", I don't want to end the marriage at all. He keeps throwing up the cliche "you cant have your cake and eat it too". **sigh**
Some people seem to be hardwired for monogamy. It is his right to have a monogamous relationship just as much as it is your right to have a polyamorous one.
I would say that "you can't have your cake and eat it too" may apply to your relationship with him, but there are many people who are willing to be in a poly-friendly relationship with you. If you truly want a poly life, you may have to choose between a life with him and the life you crave at some point.
I do hope you are able to resolve things in your marriage.