Originally Posted by PinkDragon
Ya know, I'm a very well read person. I read all kinds of stuff and I read all the time. That said.... that doesn't mean that I (or other people new to poly) know who Fisher and Ury are.
Sorry, I tried to explain this otherwise obscure reference in the comment that followed: the books to which I referred were not about poly at all, but about successful negotiation: Getting to Yes
and Getting Past No
They were all the rage a decade and more ago in various domains, including conflict resolution. They include lots of stuff that can be as useful in personal relationships as in business dealings, right down to the language to use when expressing dissatisfaction with the status quo
(e.g., focus on the problem, not the person).