Originally Posted by Vixtoria
Whether we like it or not, marriage is assumed to be a mono relationship UNLESS STATED OTHERWISE.
In some cultures (the Anglo-Saxon ones in particular), that is true. I've yet to hear of a 'traditional' i.e. church / state ceremony that has an option for non-monogamous vows in western culture though. Or does one simply cross ones fingers while taking the vows....?
A thought, how many people would actually get married if non-monogamy was a legal option? And isn't the lack of such an option the reason so many people who might otherwise self-identify as poly decide to suppress that part of their being? In other words, it's not so much that poly people are liars, they simply don't have a lot of options in the current system if they do want to get married.
That doesn't excuse dishonesty in a relationship however, whether one is married or not.